If you breath oxygen, chances are you struggle with anger and frustration at times. You might be fine one minute and the next you want to rip someones head off. Or you might be a passive aggressive person who smiles and acts like everything is OK, but inside you are boiling with strong opinions and frustration that you just long to get out.
Circumstances and events can be annoying, but living in anger is misery. When we let our anger go and blow up, or if you let your frustration fester and leave it buried in your heart and mind, life loses its joy.
Bottom line, living in anger is miserable. Here is how I have fought it in my life.
1. Realize the impact of your anger.
Whether you blow up and yell or passively turn inwards, your anger affects those around you. Your spouse, kids, co-workers, and friends know the affects of your anger all to well. Look deep, and think about how you have affected those around you with your anger. Yikes. That is not a very fun thought.
2. Cut it off at the pass.
Most people don’t just snap with out reason. Typically there has been a myriad of things that have piled up and one final straw will break the camel’s back. When you know you are close to blowing, take a step back. Clear your mind. Work on something else, take a walk, punch a punching bag. Realize that you are about to act silly and stress everyone out if you don’t stop the downward spiral of anger
3. Get a bigger perspective.
The majority of time people lose their cool over small stuff. Your kid forgets to put on their shoes and your running late, someone cuts you off in traffic, you stub your toe. All of these may be annoying, but in the grand scheme of life they are not worth losing your cool and putting everyone around you on edge.
4. Rest in God’s Sovereignty.
While the events and circumstances that cause your frustration may not make sense to you, the Lord knows every detail of your day and has allowed every thing that has taken place to take place. He is a master at turning frustrations, annoyances, and heartaches into trophies of his glory. Rest and trust in him.
So what about you? I would love to hear how you battle anger and frustration in your life. Let’s talk in the comments below.